Children !!!!!!

   So it is not like I am a expert at this or any thing it is just my observations of child rearing... Feel free to correct me if I am out of my bounds or wrong. I would love to hear your input.
  
Attitudes and Personalities

   I do not think that a child was born with a bad attitude, but a thing that progresses over time. For example, say there was a toddler about 17 months whose personality was naturally a head strong personality or maybe even a leader personality. But these personalities were mistaken for a bad attitudes ( not saying that if they do some thing wrong to let it go unnoticed) so his mom would say that he is spoiled or even a brat around him or in his face. If the mother started to say this when he was a young age he maybe would start to think that he is supposed to act like that around her. This can also result when the mother does not have any restrictions or standards for the toddler or maybe even ignores him. He starts to thinks that he can do any thing with out getting in trouble, or if ignored will go to extremes to get any attention he can.
  People are naturally going to need attention, encouragement and affirmation. If you would take a person and every day ignore him, or when you would talk to him you would  tell him he can't do any thing right, and that he is a spoiled brat. You would have one depressed. sad, and angry person. I think the same goes for children, if that is all they hear then they will go to extremes to get your attention or become a brat because that is what you labeled them..
  I have seen this happen before, A grandmother that takes care of her grandson quite often but has not rules for him. She lets him break things, through things, and through temper tantrums and never disciplines him or tells him he is not to do that, instead shakes it off on that he just wants to go out side, or he thought is was a ball, or even that it does not matter for him to break some thing because she can always get a new one. Then ,then mom comes and pics him up and he is a total mess and then she says things like " Your a brat ",  " Your a mess", and  " Your so spoiled" . And When around them he acts like what he is called, labeled, and "aloud" to do.  Then there is another family that takes care of him often, they play with him give him boundaries tell him he is such a " sweety pie" and disciplines him when he does wrong and encourages him when he does good. And over night he becomes a totally different child. He often will listen when you say no, and hardly through's tantrums or when he does they are short. He will cuddle and give hugs and kisses he is completely different.
  So that is just some thing to think about and even I still have to think about it. Like I said would love to hear any input or correction in my thinking.
 Have a good week
Tianna